Anonymous asked: How did you become so comfortable with establishing your boundaries with your man? I don’t want to come off as a hard bitch but I also need him to know that I won’t take any shit.
I just made it very, very clear. I’m at an age and a place in my life where I am not willing to budge on my boundaries and I would rather be alone than be with someone who doesn’t or will not respect the boundaries I hold. I basically just had a conversation about things as they naturally came up. Like if a topic came up, I would just let him know how I felt about that and where I stand on it. It’s ok to come off as a hard bitch when it comes to your life and your relationships. There isn’t any reason to be mean about it but it is perfectly ok to be firm.
Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.
If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.
If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.
Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.
you are going to feel so much love and devotion it’s going to scare you. you aren’t used to being the object of so much tenderness; and maybe you don’t even think you deserve it. but you do. you know you do. embrace it with open arms and let it wash over you.
